How do you deal with family members who don’t want to go to Canada?



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Somethings will be the same

You may be lucky and all of your family want to go to Canada just as much as you do. But that is not always the case. Some families find that one or more of the kids don’t want to go.

So how do you deal with that?

We have some personal experience of this. Our youngest, Greg, was the kind of child who hated change. For example when he’d outgrown his GAP sweatshirt, he wanted us to buy him the exact same one, just in a larger size. So the idea of moving to Canada was a real stretch for him.

A useful guide to how to deal with kids like Greg comes from Shelle Rose Charvet, Canadian author of “Words that Change Minds”. In her work she recognizes that there are people who do not like change, and those that do. And, more usefully, she tells you how to deal with these types.

If your child embraces change, then there’s not much you really need to do. Moving countries will be change enough. If they are at all concerned then you can tell them how different things will be, but chances are that will not be needed.

On the other hand if your child wants to stay and doesn’t see why things need to change, then here you are best talking about Canada as if it is very much the same as your home country.

Now since there will be differences to be found in Canada, how do you handle them?

Simply deal with them as improvements or gradual changes. Talk about how things will be the same only better. For example school is the same as in England only it is better because you wear your normal clothes.

Kids with this dislike of change are also in need of reassurance about what is right to do. They want the safety of knowing the right procedures to follow. So you can reassure them that you will tell them what to do and how to do things properly.

For us that meant not only telling Greg that school was going to be just like it was in England, but also telling him that it was better because he’d get to wear his usual clothes to school. And we would tell him exactly what to do when he got to school. (We made sure we knew this by visiting the school beforehand).

So, what you’re doing is reassuring your child that there everything will be much the same with some improvements, and that they will be told the steps to take to fit in just the way they used to back home.

That way you’ll find that they do fit in and life in Canada will be the same as it was – only better!


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